This email causes me profound grief. Years ago, I asked my dad to protect his finances, he ignored me, and he was hurt. Today, I ask him to pay attention to how he treats me. My sadness is heavy because he does not see how alienating me will eventually hurt him.

To troll: internet slang for intentionally upsetting someone with inflammatory, off-topic, or fallacious arguments. I do not think my dad, Dan Hogan, knows this slang word. I cannot decide which is worse: if he is trolling me or if he is sincere. Not a good day to be out of medicine.

After publicly sharing our email exchange, but before I have had a chance to fully explain the numerous absurdities of my dad’s behavior, my dad, Dan Hogan, sent me another email that I wish were satire.

On the bright side, my dad, Dan Hogan, is consistent with his avoidance of facts.

Despite explaining to my dad, Dan Hogan, that a residential program is not a good option for me, he declares that he will only help me with food, shelter, and medical treatment if I “change my mind”–as if whether or not a medical treatment is appropriate is based on whether or not I want it to be a good treatment.

Sadly, the behavior of my dad, Dan Hogan, is not new. I reply to his offer to “help” me by explaining why he is not a partner if my decision making and why I did not declare bankruptcy–even though it would have been good for me.

I explained to my dad, Dan Hogan, that I am not a candidate for a residential program, but his reply ignores what I wrote, again.