Be pro-social
From: Dan Hogan [mailto:[email protected]] Sent: Sunday, November 23, 2014 2:05 PM To: Hunter Hogan Subject: your open letter I just read your letter. You have not lost your father and friend. You are running away from your father …. and your family. Dan Hogan, CMF, CPF Lord & Hogan LLC +1-713-523-4200 USA Direct Line +1-713-249-1365 … Read more
I outline for my dad, Dan Hogan, some of the things about our relationship that hurt me.
This email causes me profound grief. Years ago, I asked my dad to protect his finances, he ignored me, and he was hurt. Today, I ask him to pay attention to how he treats me. My sadness is heavy because he does not see how alienating me will eventually hurt him.
To troll: internet slang for intentionally upsetting someone with inflammatory, off-topic, or fallacious arguments. I do not think my dad, Dan Hogan, knows this slang word. I cannot decide which is worse: if he is trolling me or if he is sincere. Not a good day to be out of medicine.
After publicly sharing our email exchange, but before I have had a chance to fully explain the numerous absurdities of my dad’s behavior, my dad, Dan Hogan, sent me another email that I wish were satire.
An open letter to my dad, Dan Hogan, asking him to reflect on the mistakes he made when he ignored my words in 2010 and 2011 because he is making the same mistakes again.
On the bright side, my dad, Dan Hogan, is consistent with his avoidance of facts.
Despite explaining to my dad, Dan Hogan, that a residential program is not a good option for me, he declares that he will only help me with food, shelter, and medical treatment if I “change my mind”–as if whether or not a medical treatment is appropriate is based on whether or not I want it to be a good treatment.
Sadly, the behavior of my dad, Dan Hogan, is not new. I reply to his offer to “help” me by explaining why he is not a partner if my decision making and why I did not declare bankruptcy–even though it would have been good for me.
I explained to my dad, Dan Hogan, that I am not a candidate for a residential program, but his reply ignores what I wrote, again.