The only easy way for me to receive money in Mexico is through PayPal. Anyone can send money to me, at anytime, and I can use my PayPal MasterCard debit card in stores or at an ATM.
But, I have a new problem: the card will stop working by 12 January 2018. The card wasn’t supposed to expire until 2019, but PayPal decided to improve security by adding a chip to the card. According to an email, they mailed the new card three weeks ago. The email also says my current card will be deactivated even if I don’t receive the new card. The new card never arrived.
So, unless I fix this problem, on top of my other problems, after 12 January 2018, it will be much more difficult for me to receive money. How difficult? If I were able to jump through the hoops necessary to get the money, then I would probably be able to earn money and wouldn’t need help.
In addition to this new problem, I am sure my father will compound the problem. He admits he doesn’t understand my situation or know the solution, but he regularly tries to control me with his wealth. I have repeatedly explained that his abusive, manipulative behavior makes my life more difficult, but he doesn’t listen. I have repeatedly defined my boundaries, but he intentionally breaks them. I even blocked his email addresses, but he opened new accounts so he could email me.
All of his actions have been perfectly predicted by the training I received as a prosecutor about abusive relationships. He will almost certainly wait until my card is deactivated, then he will try to use his wealth to control my actions. Furthermore, he will probably send a small amount of money to me before my card is deactivated. In abusive relationships, this is a classic tactic. He maintains contact with me, gives me gifts, tries to establish trust, and only sends enough money for me to become dependent on him—not enough to fix my life.
I’ve never been weaker or poorer than now. Tomorrow, I will be forced to choose between sleeping in a safe place and eating. But, you can help: PayPal.
